How to deal with that pesky (and sometimes mean!) internal chatter


We all know the classic high school stereotype…

The queen bee… the most popular girl in school… the girl everyone fears yet everyone wants to be… the mean girl.

I mean, remember Regina George? How she’d get Cady at her most open and vulnerable, and then hurl out an insult that was cruel, yes, but also felt a little bit true?

Chances are we aren’t running into many Regina Georges in real life (hopefully!) but there is something about those comments that seem harsh but also hit a little too close to home, that seems familiar. 

Maybe, it’s because more often than not, those cruel remarks are coming from inside our own heads. You know, stuff like…

“Who do I think I am?”

“I’m not qualified to be here!”

“I don’t actually know what I’m talking about…”

Or the most painful one of all…

”I’m just not good enough.”

Sound familiar?

It’s NOT just you! The truth is we all struggle with that pesky internal voice, the one that can sometimes feel like there’s a mean girl living right inside our brain.

But what if I told you there was a way to reframe all of this chatter? That you could  change your relationship with that voice in your head—the one effing with your confidence and self worth?! 

What if I told you that that critical voice was actually something that you could learn to work with and even grow to appreciate

Check out this clip from inside a Presence Under Pressure coaching session to learn how!

I know, it sounds a little woo-woo, but hear me out in this 2 minute video where I explain the science behind your inner mean girl and how to reframe your relationship with her, so you feel more empowered and effective next time she shows up.

You see? That critical internal chatter isn’t really a “mean girl,” after all! 

It’s simply the limbic system inside your brain setting off a “fire alarm,” trying to keep you safe.

So instead of judging this inner monologue, or even worse, listening to it, remember that it’s just a sign that your brain is healthy and working, it’s warding off danger for you. It’s a reminder that you’re alive! It’s something to be grateful for.  

And at the same time, it needs to be put in its place. Just like Regina George, that voice is simply a product of fear that needs a little patience, love and compassion.

How to use tried-and-true, practical tactics to change your relationship with your internal chatter

If you want to give yourself (and your brain) a dose of self-compassion and strategic thinking so you can… 

✔️ reframe your relationship with your own inner mean girl 

✔️ show up to your interactions with a more grounded, authentically confident feeling

✔️ navigate challenging conversations with poise and professionalism

Come join us for a FREE masterclass:

How To Articulate Yourself Clearly and Confidently When it Matters Most: 5 Game-Changing Strategies for Turning Pressure into Presence—Anytime, Anywhere.

I only teach this special workshop 3 times a year, and this is the LAST one of 2020. Not only are we gonna dig into some game-changing strategies for turning pressure into presence, but you’ll also have the chance to go even deeper and get personalized coaching in the coming weeks!

This is the last reminder I’ll be making, so be sure to CLICK HERE now to save your seat! 

In the meantime, keep showing up as the YOU, you most want to be. One intention, one interaction at a time.

Thanks so much for watching and I’ll see you next time,

All my love, 

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