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Advice for Teams

Awkward Silence: Is It Your Job to Fill It?

Picture this: You’ve just given your colleagues a status update about something you’re working on and then… *Crickets* – an awkward silence. You think to yourself: ➡️ Should I keep talking? ➡️ Do I ask a question? ➡️ Who is responsible for continuing to fill the noise? As women, we often take on the responsibility…

Offended? Irritated? Disrespected? Here’s How to Address What’s Bothering You in an Authentic Way

Ever feel triggered in the middle of a conversation? And instead of investigating or honoring WHY you feel that way, do you typically jump straight to: I wish I could handle this better… more like so-and so. In other words, when you feel offended, irritated, or disrespected in some way – whether it’s at work,…

Get your team on the same page with one simple trick

Has something like this ever happened to you? 👉 You’re working on a project and you need support from another team member. Maybe you need them to outline a presentation or loop in a client—but when you ask for the support you need, you feel like… your request gets dismissed (or worse, ignored!) the support…

How to look (and feel!) engaged on video calls

Now that we’ve been working virtually for over a year, chances are you know the importance of showing up with good lighting and a clean background for your Zoom meetings… …The thing is, turning on all your lamps and putting your laundry away does *not* magically translate to a calm and confident presence once you…

How to keep your virtual audience engaged using two quick tricks

Real talk: have you ever sat through a presentation that made you wanna tear your own hair out? Maybe the speaker seemed scattered… going off on tangents that didn’t feel relevant to the slides he was sharing… Or maybe there was so much text on each slide, that it became difficult to track what bullet…

How to run the most productive meetings (+ your free guide)

Real talk: have any of these thoughts run through your head while meeting with your team? 👉 “What is the point of this meeting?!” 👉 This could’ve been summarized in an email.” 👉 “Haven’t we talked about this problem a million times before? When will we actually resolve it?” 👉 “Wait a second, wasn’t this…

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How would the people who love you and know you best describe you?(Required)

You're creative and have a knack for making people think outside the box.

You’re very in tune with yourself and those around you.

You’re perceptive, quick-witted, and love to make others laugh.

You tell it like it is and never beat around the bush.

Which GIF describes how you usually feel just before a high stakes situation, like presenting to an important group?(Required)

Which GIF describes how you WANT to feel just before a nerve-wracking conversation or or presentation?(Required)

You’re at a party where you only know a couple of people. Where could we find you?(Required)

I’m chatting with new friends about what we each do for work... before moving on to exchange podcast and TV recommendations.

I’ve wrangled control of the sound system and am encouraging people to queue their favorite songs so we can belt out our favorite hits together.

I’m teaching the host how to cool down wine faster—wrap the bottle in a damp paper towel before popping it in the freezer! (You’re welcome).

I’m getting into a spirited debate with a stranger about a current event and what it implies about human nature.

You have an idea for how to solve an issue your team has been dealing with. What’s holding you back from sharing it?(Required)

I’m worried I might step on some toes by proposing this idea. I want to test it out on a colleague or two first and see what they think before pitching it to the group.

I know this is a solid and creative solution, but I’m worried it's a little too out there for my team. What if they don’t get it or think it’s too “idealistic?”

I need to think of a clever way to pitch this, so that people are genuinely excited about the idea.

I want to look at all our data first. I don’t wanna propose a solution if it’s half-baked, that’d be a waste of everyone’s time...

Picture this: half of your team feels strongly about one strategy for a project, but the other half insists that there's another (better!) path forward. The deadline is looming and tensions are rising, but you *have* to come to a collective decision. What’s your first instinct?(Required)

Let’s consider the facts and go with the smartest, most efficient solution.

Let’s take a minute to hear everyone out and see if we’re closer to a compromise than we think.

Let’s zoom out and remember our ultimate goal, then let's decide which course of action will get us there.

Let’s diffuse the tension by highlighting the progress we’ve made so far, then encourage cooperation to take it to the finish line.

You suspect a friend is going through a difficult time, but you’re not totally sure… they haven’t said anything about it, but they also haven’t been their usual self lately. What do you do?(Required)

Ask them how they are and then get quiet and listen.

Wait for them to say something—it’s their business, they’ll share if and when they’re ready to.

Send them something funny to cheer them up, like a jumbo wine glass that says “I am woman, hear me pour” on it, with a note that says “figured you could use an extra glass...”

Tell them that you sense something's up, and remind them that you’re always here if they wanna talk or vent about any of it...

Think of your current professional goal—maybe you’re itching to switch career paths, get promoted, or grow your own business. Which of the following concerns is playing on loop in your brain?(Required)

I know I want to engage people at a higher level, but I’m afraid I won’t be respected enough to be taken seriously.

I need to research and prepare more. If I don’t have everything mapped out, I’ll open myself up to unnecessary risk.

I know I have what it takes to be great at this, but I’m afraid of putting myself out there and getting rejected.

I’m worried that I don't have the time, resources, or know-how to turn my dream into a reality.

Which frustrating piece of feedback do you hear most often?(Required)

“You’re coming across as overly-rehearsed— ditch the script and trust that you know what you’re talking about.”

“You’re undermining your own points—quit being so hard on yourself and try speaking with more confidence.”

“You’ve given us the details, but you need to explain why they’re important in the grand scheme of things.”

“Your big ideas are great, but you need to be more realistic and consider the practical constraints of each project.”

What do you want to be *known for* professionally?(Required)

I want to be known as a go-to source for clear, reliable information—someone who’s adept at keeping everyone on-track and in-the-know.

I want to be known for empowering people and creating a safe space for them to be true to who they are.

I want to be known for lifting people’s spirits and making our work together something we’re all excited (rather than obligated) to do.

I want to be known for driving innovation and inspiring people to work toward a common purpose.

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